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name:.........
age: 15
my bestfreind went out with this guy and the guy happens to be my bestfriend. they both broke up and he told her that he has strong feelings for me and that he loves me. he tried askin me out and i said no b/c friendship is more important than anything and i wouldn't want to hurt my bestfriend even though i really like the guy. well a couple weeks later my friend tells me that i could go out with him and that she promises not to be mad. but i know she still really likes him...what should i do..i really really like the guy?............
its always hard to have two close friends of yours date, espically if you like the guy! since your friend waited a few weeks to tell you its ok for you to go out with the guy, it shows she started getting over him. although she promises not to be mad, it could still put a strain on your friendship if she still has feelings for him. i hate to say that you have to chose between a boy and a friend, but that's kinda the situation. i think you and the guy should take things slow and not rush into a realationship to fast so that your friend is able to see how she feels about you two dating. good luck!
name: mickenzie
age: 15
First of all, GREAT SITE! Ok, now that thats been said, maybe I should start at the beginning. In October my bestest friend shot himself, and my 'best friend' said that I was "over reacting, I wasn't that close to him anyways..." Which is a complete lie. Then she chose her boyfriend over me and just left me. Anyways I decided on suicide. (That may sound extreme but I've been teetering on the edge for a few years now.)
The day before I had planned to kill myself I talked to 'Dan' I knew him from school but we had never really talked before. Something inside told me not to do it, or at least wait. Over the next few weeks I talked to Dan more and more, and soon we were inseperable, best friends, I thought I knew why I was put on this Earth. He saw the real me and loved me regardless, something no one had done before.
Our friendship continued to grow but in January I screwed up. He was talking about suicide, and I thought he might actual do it...and stupid me, afraid of losing the one person I loved more than life itself, called the cops. Then I felt stupid because he fell asleep, thats why he wasn't answering the phone, Now he doesn't trust me.
So he started pulling away, back to 'Emily' a friend he's had for a few years. I'm really hurt by that because Emily has tortured me. What she did went beyond bullying. I've tried talking to Dan about this but he doesn't seem to understand. When he does talk about her its how much of a bitch she is, how fake she is, etc. I've learned how to block out what she says but now I can't, Dan never sticks up for me when she blatantly insults me, so I start thinking that he thinks the same thing about me, then I obsess. Then I hurt myself. I know its unhealthy and I shouldn't do it, but its my coping mechanism. All I want is for things to be how they used to be...I really think that this friendship is worth fighting for, otherwise I would have given up much sooner.
So here's my question; How can I get Dan's trust back? How can I help him see how much Emily has hurt me? And just any advice you can give me.
Thanks so much
mickenzie--
honestly, i think dans being stupid. if he doessnt trust you because you were worried about him, then i think somethings wrong..although i know from experience that sometimes people get mad when you look out for them. you cant get dan to see how much emily has hurt you without telling him. i dont know if you guys still talk or whatever, but i think you guys need to talk this one out. and since i think that it would be a more serious conversation, i would suggest talking face to face rather than on aim, ect. i do think it might take time to regains dans trust, but if you really want to, you can do anything.
name:......Meg Giry
age:15
from:Philly
proublem:ok, so here's the deal. i recently( like in the last month) met this awesome guy. He's not hott, but he's not ugly either. He's just like a cutie pie. I have a huge crush on him, like HUGE! i think he likes me too, but i'm not sure. we were in our school musical together and when ever i'd talk to him, when i walked away i'd hear his friends say "she likes you" and stuff like that. one of his friends told me he wanted to meet me outside and that he was waiting for me outside but i had to go on stage so i couldn't go see him. How can i show him i like himwithout saying it to his face?
you could..rent a blimp, get on national television, or get a billboard! but seriously? my personal [favorite] method is to get your friends to find out who he likes! then you know if its even worth telling him. if he likes you too, then i think its ok to tell him to his face that you like him. ask him to the movies or something (alone or in a group) and see if sparks fly. if they do, and you want a realationship to work, then i think you have to be able to tell him you like him. kinda like the whole honesty thing, you know?
Name: Denina
Age: 15
Problem: Well my guy friend Rafael has been flirting with me alot since i broke up with my boyfriend last week but i don't know if he actually likes or if he's just trying to make my ex-boyfriend jealous (He doesn't like him)> He admitted to me awhile ago that he used to have a crush on me last year but i don't know if he does now........I don't want to approach him if it turns out he just wants to make my ex jealous. What should I do??
Denina--
so your guy friend is eithor A) flirting with you to make your ex jealous or B) flirting with you because he liked you..what reasons does he have to want to make this ex of yours jealous? maybe he feels like he has to compete with this guy for your attention-and i would think that means he likes you? if he admitted he had a crush on you last year, he either wanted you to know or your really good at getting guys to tell you things and i wish i had your skills! my advice? if you approach him and it turns out he doesnt like you, will it be that bad? you know he had a crush on you, and that didnt make the friendship akward, so why should this?
name: Anna
age: 15
Problem: .. ok to start out there is this guy who i have grown up with all my life.. well i never pictured him as the type of boy id like or whatever but we tried it twice n both times failed but we ended up dating again or whatever and we went out for 9 months . i was truely in love with this guy- only upset is sometimes we had arguments .. well one day he asked me whta we should do n he said he wouldnt break it off with me that it was my decision.. well i said we should take some time- thinkin wed get back together sometime soon or whatever.. well this was a year ago.. almost to the day.. and we went on dates and stuff n im still head over heels for him and i need your help on this---> .. he says he still loves me and complains that he wants me back and wishes we never split but then when i ask him if he wants to try it again he gives me the excuse that he doesnt want a girlfriend n i dont know what to do !! help !
anna--
this guys stories dont match, plain and simple. he loves you and wants you back, but he doesnt want a girlfriend. i think you shoulf talk to him nd find out [why] he doesnt want a girlfriend! if its something like, "i wanna have time to be with friends and not always with my gf" then you can work around it...if its something deeper you might have a problem. talk to him, his reasons are key here hun!
Name-Monica
age-14
problem- theres this guy who i used to really like alot and i just got to see him yeserday and he has changed so much. but now he likes me a lot but it seems when im not with him that i like him and when i am with him i don't its really weird. but newayz i don't know what to do....
monica--
when your with him is it wierd like no one wants to make the first move, or do yoou not like him when your together? remember dating is alot of spening time together-so if you only like him when youre apart, he just might not be the guy for you
Name- Bethaney
Age- 16
Problem- Well... okay... i've known this guy for about 4 years...{ryan} and we had a thing in december 2003....and well... then we kinda split up cuz of another guy...and well now hes back into my life... but there is a guy friend {jacob} that has been crushin on me and we've hung out alot...and i tell him everything...and i kinda developed a crush on him in January..and its stuck with me...but i dont see it going anywhere...and well... i see myself with ryan... and i love bein with ryan...but then i also like hangin out with jacob... i dunno what to do...any advice?
bethaney--
sometimes i wish we could just date however many guys we wanted..then i get snapped back into reality!! i think youve gotta pick one guy. if you tell jacob everything and are close, are you willing to put that on the line for a realationship you dont see going anywhere? if ryan likes you, and you split becase of another guy in your life, i'm not seeing any problems there. :-\...i cant tell you what to do, follow your heart! goodluck!
omgosh.. i hope everythings ok... but i need help wenever u can look at this.... my names Cearra and im 13.. i was with this guy... well i him broke up wit him many many times (4 2 b exact) and got bak 2gether hella times... and ya.. well i started not 2 like him juss recently... and me n my friends n 2 of his friends told him i cheated on him,.... BUT I DIDNT ... and we had 2 beg him 2 break up with me and there were alotta pplz tellin him 2 so he broke up wtih me... that was the hole plan so hed break up with me.... but his sister found out... and shes in high school ... and her profile says : Fuckin slut better back OFF... and tahts 2 me.. shes HELLA pissed..... i c her everyday walkin home... .. and im afraid 2tell her the truth cuz she mite tell my x.... but if i tell her i lied shed still b mad but not as mad... and none of my friends no wut 2 do... and i hav NOOOO idea wut 2 do.. got ne ideas? HELP!! plz plz plz lol thanks so much bye
cearra--
just have to say that wouldve been a whole lot easier if you had just broken up with him! at this point, youve eithor got to be honest or live with the lie. i dont see why his sister is so mad though! but if your thst afraid of your ex finding out the truth then i think your kinda stuck?. good luck!! i hope it all turns out ok! | | |
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I'm nani* from before....the question is how can I help my boyfriend be more comfortable with me and not be so nervous or shy?
Hey I have a little confussion going on that I don't know how to go about handling. See I have been going out with this boy for over a month and I really like him and he really likes me...rite? Well when we started going out with this boy I knew he was shy, but I feel like he is to shy. Like he is to shy to do things unless I make the first move. What should I do to make him...or uummm to get him do things with out me signaling first? If that makes any sense. Thanx...nani*
Nani,
shyness is hard to get over. hold his hand infront of people, hug and kiss him. let him get used to being with you a little bit more. show alot of affection to him when people are around or not around. just let him know he doesnt have to be shy, even if you cant say it to him, show him.
name:Priscilla
age:13
from:north carolina
proublem: my friend and i are really good friends. i like this guy and so does she. he asked her out and she said no that she wanted to know him a little more but if the option would be open later on.then he told me what happend and said he would ask her out later after they now each other better. im happy for my friend that he will ask her out but im kinda jealous.Should i tell him how i feel or should i let him go??
Priscilla,
well, if you KNOW your friend likes him then i wouldnt say anything. he might ask you out and then you say yes and her feel betrayed. it happens. girls get jealous, VERY easily. lol. good luck
name:Katie
age:15
from:Michigan
problem: okay so theres this guy that i use to be really good friends with and then we went out. we went out for about five months and it was over the summer then i found out that he wasnt going to go to the same high school as me because he got into a gifted program at another school. and it lasted about a week and a half after school started. and then he broke up with me which kinda shocked me. then the next day i looked in his profile online and found he had a new girlfriend which had kinda raised my suspisions about him but i didnt think much of it at the time. after we broke up we saw eachother five days later and him and his gf had broken up we went to a movies with a couple of friends and it was almost like we never broke up we got back together that night and we became so much closer but it was too much for me like i still loved him and i made sure to tell him that when i broke up with him and were still friends but its been almost 5 months since we broke up but i still have feelings for him. ive tried to look at other guys but it all comes back to him and like little things remind me of him. i just wanna get over him but i cant. so do you have any advice on how to get over a guy? Thanks
Katie,
like i told allie, its hard getting over guys. they just have this affect on you. but if you guys have last almost half a year and hes STILL on your mind .. chances are he's supposed to be there. i dont really know what to tell you.. just tell him how you feel and exactly what you feel. good luck sweetie!
Name: stacey
Age: 15
From: North Carolina
alright.. first of all i think its cool that you are doin this for ppl. its really great.
neways... okay ive never made out with someone. yeah i know its stupid.. im 15 in never done that.. but my parents technically dont allow me to have a boyfriend. but im 15 and.. im not not gunna have a boyfriend.. they can get over that one. but neways. ive never made out with someone. and i got a boyfriend right now.. and weve been goin out for 3 weeks.. yesterday. and i like him n all n he likes me.. and i kiss him everyday.. just not made out yet. and im one of those country gurls.. who like to have their kisses like in the movies. i want my foot to pop. lol and i want it to be the right person. and ive had many chances to do it... its just never felt like they were the right person.. yanno? but yeah.. so idk what to do..cause i want to do it.. just not with him.. not the 1st one anyway. cause i want it to be special and memorable. and idk.. hes just not the person i want it to be with. i know it sounds bad.. cause hes my bf n all.. but hes just not the one for the 1st. so idk what to do cause ppl keep sayin to him that im afraid to do it.. which im not.. and basically pushin him.. and he wants to... i just dont. but i dont want him or anyone else know that i havent before.. cause its kinda embarassing. so what do i do???
Stacey,
so are you telling me you dont want to date your boyfriend or you dont want to make out with him? if you dont want to be with him then break up with him but if you dont want to make out with him then dont. if he pushes you to do it then you shouldnt be with him. you should be with someone who will wait as long as you want them to. | | |
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